The paths, conscious and unconscious, create our stories of business and personal life.
Stories are the basis of our lives. that we live our lives. The way we experience the world is essentially the stories we put into it. This also is true for our business (and that doesn’t matter, that is to say, if you’re an official owner of a company or not – you are the status of a “business”). It doesn’t matter if it means arriving at the right time, working in an office, or managing the site or team. It is still an enterprise, and you are running it by the story you tell. Everything that you think is possible or not is based on your story. You could declare, “That’s the truth, from my own experience,” and that’s fair enough; however, this isn’t the complete picture. Your experience isn’t on its own doing anything. It’s how you interpret this experience that makes up your story. That narrative is what you base your decisions on.
“So how can I alter my life?” might be the following question. But what happens if it’s all about changing the story more than selecting it?
(I have had a great conversation with the president of the company and “chief of storytelling” for Steller Collective, Kindra Hall, on a show on my podcast. We ended up talking about the art of storytelling in depth.) Hall is an authority in the field and has been acknowledged by several well-known publications.
If we’re unhappy with the circumstances of our lives, we often find ourselves in the realm of judgment and blame, which can lead to a need to make radical changes. This can be the case as we get closer to “middle age,” as in the term “mid-life problem.”
I have placed these terms in quotation marks because they’re just terms that I have applied to what I believe could be more precisely defined. A mid-life crisis, to me, is essentially the realization that you’ve lived your lives on other people’s rules. It typically occurs in middle age, when the shocking realization that our lives have (in theoretical terms) shorter time remaining in them is brought into harsh reality. Every bit of “manana” thinking throws us into a panic about the possibility that our personal goals may not come true.
We could also reflect and consider the amount of time we’ve wasted trying to figure out what another person advised us to do. The most common mistake made in response is believing that the outcomes weren’t all that bad or that we did not wish for one of them. The truth is, we did, at some level, wish for a lot of what’s happened within our daily lives. In the case of the example, if we’ve sat and waited in the loop of our subconscious, We’ve decided to stop engaging. It shouldn’t be a surprise that what awaited us was not what we had desired and instead seemed to be a chaotic sequence of events.
Remember that there’s no benefit in inviting judgment into this scenario before you begin getting yourself in a bind over the instances when you played video games instead of attending classes or spent longer than you should have in bed. When you judge yourself for the past, you’re merely placing negative energy on situations, people, locations, and other things that aren’t there now. The only present thing is the present; you can make fresh choices, so why burden that with the negative energy of the past?
The purpose of all this is to help you realize the necessity of choosing your own story, not altering it because something different from what you’ve experienced may not necessarily be better.
“But how do I gain control of my story on Earth?” you may think, “when I’ve been out of the driver’s seat so long?”
Keep in mind that this is an account of a narrative. The way you view reality is determined by yourself and the story you’re running. If you’re a person with a negative approach and consider all human endeavors as useless and futile, then guess what… it will be difficult to be unable to find satisfaction in all of them.
Your business is just as important as any other aspect you live in. If you’re looking to improve it, it’s best, to begin with, your own story. The stories you tell yourself form your beliefs which is the doorway to the possibility. It’s not enough to throw the door open and hope for things to happen, but you can take on the work of opening it. If you can get yourself to the place where you ask, “Why not?” you will already be operating on a different story.
We’re often surrounded by individuals in business who think that something isn’t possible. They are the ones who be like this, and it’s okay, but you may benefit from hearing their opinion since blind, uncontrolled ambition can harm results (and most often, health). If you’re running the right message -that the desired outcome is entirely possible and you don’t have to control the exact method of bringing it to fruition, then the answers that answer the “no” will be presented.
This, however, isn’t the result of magic or life coach and jargon. It’s the way your brain works. The Retinal activating system (RAS) is only a small component of the brain, but it’s the primary gatekeeper through that information gets to your conscious brain. It ranks the billions of pieces of information thrown at it each second by various senses to help you sort out essential information. This is what you would like to have on your side in setting goals.
The thing to remember about the RAS, however: it isn’t able to be argued with at the intellectual scale… but not really. It is a result of decades of emotional input; this is why you feel immediately when you hear someone call your name amid a crowd or see an eye watching you through an ocean of people. To get your RAS to begin noticing the possibilities and solutions that will lead you to your desired goal, you need to provide it with information that these opportunities are out in the world waiting to be discovered. It would help if you persuaded it to believe that such items are safe and desirable.
This is why a story is crucial and why taking your self-confidence out of the equation is essential. Think about it this way When you are talking about how unfair things are (and we’ve been guilty of it at some point or the other), it is your narrative, and your ego doesn’t wish to be challenged since it will get you out of the ring for your perceived mistakes. So, your story is based on victimhood. Why?
There is a confirmation bias that we see in various aspects of life. We are all used to setting up their flags and agreeing to live our life on a mountain — their egos hinder their progress, and they let the RAS just search for proof that they’re correct. However, imagine the possibilities you’d have by harnessing the power of confirmation bias to find an avenue to live your dream life. What can you accomplish? Where can your company go?
The increasing tendency to rely on ego-driven stories could, at a minimum, be due to the rise of social media. We often put much of the blame on the tech-opoly in the present, and maybe for an excellent reason. With the constant bombardment of carefully curated images and other data and information, it’s not surprising that our unconscious programming has changed. Also, we see mental health disorders such as anxiety and depression increasing and can be explained by the growing sense that we’re no longer in charge of our unconscious.
The first step to returning to living a life that is consciously planned is to awaken our attention to the present. Don’t judge or attempt to control things; instead, we must be conscious. Once we are aware, we can begin to make a new story from a sane, holistic space. If you start to be more involved in your life and choose the best for yourself and your business, you’ll begin to get better results in your work.